Skip to content

Is it me or am I paranoid?


This blog is a good thing and I am enjoying myself and finding out more about myself every day. What I like, dislike and my thoughts on various issues I bump into around the blogosphere.

I also like to check my stats and see how many have popped on to read my thoughts and there I see what people are searching for on my blog and where they have been refered from, and that is worrying me.

You see I clicked on a link where someone had come from and found myself on an adult porn page! Why would an adult porn page have a link to my blog? It sent the creeps up my spine and I started to wonder, did someone do that on purpose and Why would someone do that?

Have I unknowingly stepped on someone’s toes? Have I upset someone?

 Then I go on to thinking harder. I notice that for two weeks on the trot, Tara hasn’t commented on my photo’s taken for her workshop. Have I upset her too? Josie hasn’t come back to me on my writing for her workshop….you’re getting the picture, right? Probably these two ladies have far more interesting things to do in their lives than worry about my posts but I can’t help the train of my thoughts taking this direction.

You see as nice as it is to buzz around here and there, chat via a comment box and ‘make friends’ we still aren’t too sure who these people are and if they are genuine.

A few weeks back I had comments from a couple of people who I haven’t seen head or tail of since even if I do pop over to their blogs on occasion and leave a comment. Have I upset them too? Or maybe they’ve just moved on to more interesting things?

Now most of us, would brush this off and think no further but I’m having a pretty hormonal time at the moment and this makes me blow out of proportion and magnify each tiny change.

Do you do this too?

Have I upset someone without knowing or am I just thinking too hard once again?

If you do know how or why I could possibly be linked to an adult porn page please let me know, it’s unsettling and worrying and I’m not sure what to do about it. Thanks 🙂

Love to all and Happy Easter

17 Comments leave one →
  1. ourprivateblog permalink
    04/04/2010 2:42 pm

    What a relief to know I’m not the only one with paranoid thoughts about this whole blogging lark!!

  2. 04/04/2010 4:14 pm

    aww bless you! I think we all get paranoid occasionally about things like that. Not just you, I know I get twinges of paranoia sometimes!
    Comment wise it’s easy to get behind with blog reading with so many great ones out there and life in the way! Tara and Josie are very busy bees, with so many blogs to look through and things to organise! I’m 100% sure it’s nothing personal!
    No idea why you’re on an adult website though!

  3. Jean permalink
    04/04/2010 4:36 pm

    Just because you’re paranoid it doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you.

    Hehe, just kidding!

    Don’t sweat the paranoia, that’s normal, who doesn’t think like that sometimes?

    As far as the adult thing is concerned, was it a comment left with a link? That’ll be porn bots or something, one of my clients gets that a lot. If you’re worried send me the details by email.

    • 07/04/2010 1:20 pm

      No not a comment just a referrer to my blog.

      Just weird that I should be under’s adult porn page?

      • Jean permalink
        10/04/2010 9:01 am

        Hmm, Digg is user submitted, if it bothers you send me the referrer.

  4. 04/04/2010 5:38 pm

    The ‘noia always hits hard and put you on a low… try not to worry about it though. There are weeks when the organisers of memes/workshops don’t comment on my posts but when you’ve got between 50 and 90 posts to go through just posting “great post” or “lovely pic” can be both tedious and devalue the comment.

    I’ve found that the workshops and meme’s bring other readers and subsequent comments to my blog and for that, I am extremely grateful. I also read a lot of blogs through my G-Reader and only click through to comment (such as this). I “star” and “like” a lot of posts and they show up on a widget on my blog so everyone can see what I’m currently reading.

    • 07/04/2010 1:21 pm

      Yes, you’re absolutely right and I too am very grateful for the new readers AND having found new material to read too.

  5. 04/04/2010 6:14 pm

    Think we all have moments of major paranoia about our blogs etc. I know that I’m seriously struggling to keep up with my blog reading and commenting at the moment, and I’ve been feeling really bad about it. There are so many fantastic blogs to read, but I have organise my limited time and writing for my own blog has to take priority right now. Though I am going to make more of an effort to keep on top of my google reader so it doesn’t get so full all the time.

    Head up, honey. You’re blog’s great and you’re doing brilliantly.


    P.S. No idea on the adult porn site I’m afraid, though I know some *very* dodgy google searches bring people to my blog. Worrying!

    • 07/04/2010 1:22 pm

      Thanks for that, and I have looked at my reader today only to find 53! I’ve only been gone 3 days!

      time is hard to organise but I’m doing my best. xx

  6. whatshappeningatmyhouse permalink
    05/04/2010 7:19 am

    Just an echo of the comments above, really – I think we all get paranoid with this blogging lark sometimes, I know I do. I find myself sometimes getting quite worried about people who used to comment but haven’t recently/people who have commented/compulsively checking blog stats etc etc.

    When I get like this, I find the best way to put everything back into perspective is to limit my internet use for a few days, take a step back and get everything into perspective. That’s what works for me, anyway.

    Re the adult porn thing, I’ve no idea, sorry.

    Chin up, and try not to lose sight of the fact that the main person we blog for is ourselves xx

    • 07/04/2010 1:23 pm

      Thank you.
      And of course you’re absolutely right, I’ve been away at mum’s for a few days far far away from the PC and it has put it all into perspective. 🙂

  7. 05/04/2010 9:44 am

    Don’t stress, you won’t have upset anyone – it comes down to everyone having the same dreaded enemy – time! Relax and don’t let it get you down, (easier said than done, I know!) enjoy blogging, blog for you, blog from the heart. Good luck and lots of love. xx

    And forget the porn, it will be spammers at work somehow, it will fall by the wayside (happened to me once.)

  8. 06/04/2010 6:10 am

    LOL-you should be proud of your blog and not paranoid at all.

    As far as the porn?hmmmmm, at least you got on digg 🙂 LOL

  9. 06/04/2010 12:05 pm

    It could be some sort of spam and it might never happen again.
    I agree with what your other readers have said, try not to get down about comments. Some of my closest friends say they’re too shy to comment and some prefer to simply read/view and leave it at that. Others visit sporadically, and, when they do, call in at quite a few blogs at once, not commenting on any. There’s also plenty of people who love your blog but don’t ‘follow’ or ‘subscribe’ to anyone, so their visits and comments to all the blogs they read might be infrequent. You could always invite people over to your blog – perhaps you could try it tomorrow with The Gallery?
    So, no, you haven’t done anything to anyone 🙂 and keep up your lovely work!

    • 07/04/2010 1:25 pm

      Thanks Heidi.
      reading this after a couple of days really has shown it all ina different light and I’m now itching to get back home and get cracking on with it all again.

  10. 07/04/2010 9:25 pm

    I know I have lots of moments of insecurity too……somehow blogging can turn from enjoyment to worrying if anyone likes you or what you are writing. I know I don’t devote enough time reading other people’s posts or commenting because I just don’t have the time so that’s the excuses I use and try not to think about it too much. I hope by the time you get this comment you won’t be feeling this way and will have had a lovely break. x

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: